I recently had a revelation of something I had never considered before. I now believe our best life, the life God has in store for each of us, is always there waiting for us. You and I just need to become the person that is congruent with that life. We need to grow into someone in alignment with that life. The person that will use that life the way they are meant to. Someone who will flourish in that life. If that life came your way and you were not ready, it would choke you or leave you worse off than you were when you started.
I believe I will get to a point where God will say “Ok, you’ve done the work, you’ve learned the lessons necessary to get you through this next level of life that I have for you. I can trust you not to allow this life to kill you or break you or turn you into something/someone you’re not. I can trust you to use what I give you, be it things, experiences or a platform, for the good of those I’ve called you to impact. I can trust you with my son’s heart (when it’s time to bring my husband into my life.)” I believe it is all always available, we just have to grow into it.
How do you grow into it or how have I been growing into it? It began with exposure. I was exposed to what was possible which made me dream big. Whether through books, podcasts, interviews or any other way. After the exposure, I had to start by believing the life I now dreamed of was possible, not just possible but possible for ME. I had to believe I was worthy of it and that meant I had to love myself enough to believe I was worthy of the life I dreamed of. That I am deserving of that life.
To get me closer to that point hasn’t happened over night. It’s taken and is taking years. Years of unlearning different things. Years of changing thought patterns. Years of growing through many challenges; yes growing. All that to get to the ME that I am now. Even when I’m living in the dreams I have for the next stage of my life, it doesn’t mean the growth journey will be over. I will still learn and discover more of myself as I go and with each version of me that emerges, she gets the life that’s always been waiting for her. For example, the ME of now is close to having her books sell well, living in an ocean view home and having experiences like celebrating her 40th birthday with a trip to Chicago, Los Angeles and New York City. The version after that gets to impact the world in ways she never imagined. The version of me after that will be ready for marriage and gets to marry the man of her dreams. It’s only a matter of time before I grow into each of those versions of myself. I believe the same applies to you.
It’s not an easy journey. In this journey you may have your greatest fears realised, to show you that you can survive them. You may lose friends and connections in the process, to make way for new ones. You may even feel like you’ve hit rock bottom because sometimes, that’s where you get up from. All this to allow you to grow into your truest most authentic self that you accept and love and that you are willing to embody and express without fear of judgment.
The ME of 5 years ago wouldn’t have survived or been able to thrive in the levels of life that await me. That’s why I’m grateful to God for His protection, guidance and direction because if I was doing things on my own, I may have pushed for things I wasn’t ready for and would have self-sabotaged in no time. I used to think God is preparing my life for me but now I see that all along it’s me that He’s been preparing for the life that awaits me. Through my desires, my imagination and the prophetic words I’ve received, God has given me a glimpse into a possible life for me. Through different ways I’ve described in detail in previous magazine issues, we each get to create our dream life. Whether through a vision letter, a vision board, a vision obituary, future journaling or any other way, you get to design the life of your dreams because that life is already waiting for you.
What I’ve written here is something that would probably be better shared when I am in fact living my dream life but I’m choosing to share it now because I want anyone who reads this at a later stage to see the truth of what I’m saying now, in this level of my life. Now, when my life is far from the life I dream of. Now, when my circumstances greatly contradict that life. Now, when I live in landlocked Bulawayo, Zimbabwe and dreaming of that ocean view home I described in the “future journaling” article from last month’s issue. I actually wouldn’t change this level of my life for anything, in fact I’m convinced it’s the most important level. If I wasn’t in this level, I wouldn’t have dreamed the way I have. I would have been comfortable with life as it was. I wouldn’t have wanted more so much I was willing to leave everything and anyone behind to obsessively pursue getting to that dream life.
So why write all this? To let you know that if you dream of a different life and if you want more out of life, there’s an amazing life waiting for you. Your best life, the life God has in store for you, is out there waiting for you. You just need to grow into it. When you are ready to be a student of life and grow, the teachers will come. Whether through personal development books, biographies and autobiographies, podcasts, different life experiences or any other way, the teachers and lessons will be waiting for you. It will not happen overnight but that life is possible for you. You have to believe that for yourself. In the meantime, I’ll believe it for you.
